Adoption Through the Eyes of Adopted and Foster Kids
I took all my stuff to the downstairs bedroom, shut the door, and crawled into bed, pulling the covers over my head. It felt safer there. Perhaps, there, I could escape the message that pounded in my head relentlessly: “You are a bother.” It was the time of my second clinical depression and I felt like I was being a
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This is another wonderful article from JEWELS NEWS, written by Samantha Jones, Fall 1997 Issue. Hello, my name is Samantha and I am 12 1/2 years old. I’m Afro-American. I’m adopted. I’ve been with my adopted family for about eight years now. Being adopted to me means being with the permanent family. Sometimes I wonder what my birth family is
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Even though we adoptees and foster kids lash out relentlessly at our moms, there are hidden pockets of love that will surface someday.
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It is possible to add insult to injury by labeling an adoptee’s or foster child’s battle with depression as a spiritual problem. Please don’t.
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Adopted and foster kids often have no sense of self. They may pick out someone they admire and copy them…even down to hairstyles and clothes. That was the way it was for me. I was not only rejected by my birth mother, but even more painfully, rejected by my very own self.
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Dear Dads, You have a role in your daughter’s life that no one else can fill. As an adopted person, I believe our sense of self worth is foundational to our relationship with you. You set the pattern for male relationships for life. If you are emotionally absent, we will believe that is normal and seek out those that act
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As adoptees begin to deal with the realities of adoption in their lives, blaming is part of the process. What adoptees don’t know is that blaming others for their painful past is a landmine for losing their personal power. Without knowing it, they are choosing to remain a victim. Here are some tangible ways to help your adopted child or teen get unstuck.
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Why would a seemingly insignificant object trigger pieces of my adoption puzzle that stayed dormant for years? And, how could I solve the grief puzzle it surfaced?
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It is absolutely essential for adopted kids to learn positive things from parents. Positive things that will fill holes of low self-worth, feelings of not belonging, and second chances when they make mistakes. So much of adoptee behavior depends on what is learned in the home.
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What is it that adoptive and foster parents must be aware of when telling their kiddos they are special? Find out the exception here.
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There is an art to telling adopted children their story. It is a certain way that snuffs out toxic shame and helps us adoptees go on after a trauma or multiple traumas. It truly is an art. Without the right artful approach, your child may silently reaffirm the lie that “my life is a mistake.” Some parents are scared to
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As an adoptee, I learned how to fly the nest from my mom and dad through adoption. But, have I ever flown the nest from my birth mother? This is another step in establishing an adoptee’s unshakeable identity.
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Why do adoptees run into walls, drop dishes, and trip? Sherrie Eldridge discovered a possible cause and shares it with adoptees and those who love them.
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When adoptees experience rejection when reuniting with birth relatives, it is a game changer. A choice must be made.
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