Relinquishment and Adoption Are Different

This post tells about the confusion between adoption and relinquishment and the benefits of knowing the differences.

Language itself is often a problem in the field of adoption. Seldom is it simply a matter of semantics. For all too long the literature has failed to carefully distinguish between relinquishment and adoption as two separate, parallel processes which interface with each other in adoptive development. And the consequences of this unfortunate muddling of thinking is that relinquishment, with all its negative power, is quietly unnoticed and adoption, as a process of attachment to another family, is unfairly loaded with societal stigma. Let me explain.

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An Unexpected Prescription for Grieving Adoption Loss

This post handles the problem of adoption grief and proposes the added dimension of worship for healing.

It’s so easy to go negative about adoption, thinking that ranting about our pain will get us one step closer to healing. Speaking up and out is good, but there is an additional step that needs to be taken to become the people we were created to be.

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What Adoptive and Foster Parents Can Do When Kids “Out-Stubborn” Them

When Your Child Resists Talking about Adoption there are ways to get them to open up and share.

What can adoptive and foster parents do when their kids consistently resist talking about adoption? Many times, the child will yell, “You don’t get it.” And, truth be told, parents don’t get it because adopted and foster kids see life in an entirely different way than their parents. Learn here how to enter their world….and how to miss entrance.

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The Burning Fear Adoptees and Foster Kids Find Impossible to Quench

This is an image of a woman hiding under the covers. She has deep adoption fears and this post shows how to deal with them.

This insidious fear lies in the basement of adopted and fostered kids heart, like mould. How can one deal with such a fear? Who could possibly have an answer that will quench the fear? Read on…

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What Adoptive and Foster Parents Can Do If Short-Changed by Social Workers

It’s hard to believe in this day and age that social workers often hold back vital truth from adoptive and foster parents. Withheld truth that will surely sabotage both parenting and growing up adopted or fostered. What can a parent do when this happens? Sherrie Eldridge lists six steps to help parents get started.

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Adoptees and Foster Kids Will Likely Identify with Elf at Christmas

It’s probably the 5th time I’ve seen the movie called “Elf,” but this time, I felt incredibly uncomfortable. Buddy (Will Ferrell) was dropped off at the North Pole as a toddler and raised to adulthood among Santa’s elves. Bob Newhart plays the kindly Elf father who parents him. Elf was increasingly frustrated at the North Pole. He just didn’t fit

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