How do you connect the dots(clues)? Look for mysteries, out-of-the-ordinary stuff, shocking circumstances, and repetition. What makes your mind say “really?” When I was a child, the physician who delivered me visited every week to check on me came until I was old enough to ask who he was. Hmmmm. Something strange there.
Anything come to mind for you about your child? About you?
Before deciding to go full blast on our adventure, we must count the cost, don’t you think?
See this precious little girl, dressed up as a detective? If we could see her heart, this is what she would look like. Most adoptees in the All-Adoptee Growth Group (firstname.lastname@example.org) say that they think about their birth motherevery day.
I’d like for us to consider the risks of searching regarding the adopted child, whether he/she is a newborn, school-aged, teen, or adult adoptee. What is it like for we adoptees to not have acknowledgement of our birth families?
THAT is the cost we need to count! We need to keep in mind that adoption is about a child being placed in a nurturing home, not a child meeting the needs of parents for a family.
How will searching/not searching for birth relatives affect your child? You? We’ll talk about that next.
AdoptionIdentity Fact for today: 100% of adoptees are searching for their birth relatives. It may not be a literal search, but it is a search nonetheless. (Research, Brodzinsky, Schecter, Henig: The Search for Self).
What comes to mind as a risk for you? You can be honest here. We want diverse viewpoints! Do you believe adoptees think about their birth mothers (especially) every day? Do these thoughts show up in behavior, questions, school projects? Adoptees, what form do your thoughts come in? Do they occur on birthdays, Mother’s Day, or any day? Birth parents, is there even a day goes by that you don’t miss your child?
What are your thoughts after reading these posts? Please share so that you, me, and others can grow! Leave your comments way to the bottom of this site.