Do Adoptees Have A High Pain Tolerance?
“Ouch!” I almost screamed, as the chiropractor began deep muscle massage.
Now, I’m not one to scream…even when delivering babies.
In fact, I take pride in my high pain tolerance.
I think I’m tough and can handle almost anything.
Well, not today on the chiropractor’s bench.
A month ago, I had a horrific fall on our slippery front porch. I landed with my legs split and my head in the bushes.
Since then, I’ve had X-rays of knee and hip, gone to a knee replacement guy to make sure I didn’t dislodge replacements, and iced my knee when I think of it.
The real reason I went to the chiropractor was to find out if it was still okay to box. That’s it. I thought I had already conquered the worst of the fall injuries.
However, when the massage therapist began deep muscle massage on the tendon and MLC, that was when I almost screamed.
As I left the therapy session, I thought about something I once learned: “Those with a high pain tolerance are in a lot of pain.”
Really? It doesn’t mean we’re tough as nails?
No, unfortunately. It means we are in denial, big time.
Then, I thought about this principle in regard to adoption.
I bet many adoptees think they are tough. After all, we had to be to survive traumatic loss. But we tackled all the issues and gone to a gazillion therapists.
How can we walk through this journey with unbelievable pain that we aren’t even aware of?
We forget that adoption is a lifelong journey and that we may run into unexpected trauma along the way. A birth mother rejects us, we feel we don’t belong in our adoptive family, we have non-existent self-esteem and worth. Trauma continues.
However, to deny the pain as I have with my porch injury is not smart.
But, where can we go?
Are there chiropractors for adoption?
Of course not.
But, we do have one another. And, I still believe that an hour with a fellow adoptee is worth more than months of therapy.
So, let’s not allow ourselves to get to the screaming point.
Let’s tell one another where we’re hurting and allow ourselves to be nurtured deep in our adoptee muscles.
#14: CHOICE: To choose to accept our limits and be nurtured.