Yesterday, I posted statements that cause mixed feelings (painful feelings) in adoptees.
Today, let’s talk about concrete steps for dealing with the mixed up, finger-over-the-blackboard feelings:
Record your current circumstances in a journal. Maybe call it your “finger-over-the-blackboard” notebook?
Or how about getting a huge piece of paper? Then, have someone trace your whole body. When the drawing is complete and you are alone, write down the painful, conflicting feelings that are coming from your head and heart.
Identify the Trigger
Then, draw the people and messages that are prompting the mixed feelings and label the physical effects on your body…don’t forget…the beautiful brain is so important.
When completed, title your portrait in big letters:
ALL OF MY FEELINGS ARE REAL AND OKAY.
Say to yourself, “I am remembering something painful. But that was then, and this is now.” (Isn’t there a song by that name?) This technique will reign in your emotions and mind so you don’t lose control with a meltdown or depression.
Now, my friends, look at this site’s menu above. Click “List of Adoptee Choices.”
Tell me which of the 20 choices you would choose, either for yourself, or your child.
Love to you all!