An Adoptee’s Pearls from The Oyster of Adoption

This picture of a young woman with stunning pearls illustrates how I feel as an adopted person. I didn't have my pearls early in life, but gained them with every passing decade. I hope they now are like a steady hand in the world of adoption.

1. Anyone can make love, but only God can create a life. (credit: Lee Ezell)

2. Even though my birth parents didn’t plan my life, God did. My life is not a mistake.

3. Every day of my life was planned before any one of them ever came to be—no coincidences!

4. I was removed me from the care of my birth parents for their good and mine.

5. Even though hospital workers called me “Baby X” after birth, my mom and dad had already picked out a name for me.

6. I am not a reject or second class–I am a jewel among jewels.

7. I have a unique place in human history that no one else can fill.

8.  Even though my birth mother experienced a painful conception, good came out of evil–me!

9. The desire in my heart for a reunion with my birth family is innate. I need not feel guilty for wanting to meet them.

10. Searching and reunion bring growth, no matter what the outcome, for I have faced my greatest fear.

11. There is a time to search for answers to adoption questions and a time to give up as lost.

12. Some of my adoption questions will never be answered this side of heaven. 

© Copyright, Sherrie Eldridge 2006, 2021. All rights reserved.

Published by Sherrie Eldridge, Adoption Author

Have you ever heard these words from an adoptee or foster kid—“You just don’t get it.” Many adoptive and foster parents haven’t been told that they see life and adoption differently than their kids. As a result, they must learn how to enter their child’s world. As an adopted person, my passion is to help you see adoption through the eyes of your children. Be sure and follow me (top right) for new blog posts!

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