Adoptee Fantasies Must Wash Away

Dear friends through adoption,

Oftentimes, we grow up believing fantasies about our birth family. Some imagine birth parents as a king and queen who live in a castle, concluding that life would indeed be wonderful when reunion occurs.


I remember when I met with the intermediary that eventually found Elizabeth, my birth mother. We met for breakfast before the search began. Over coffee, she asked what I thought I would find at the end of the search. My answer?

A bag lady. The feelings were not positive, which I find interesting now, looking back upon an unsuccessful reunion.

Most of the time, at least in my case, I wasn’t aware of the fantasies, either negative or positive.

Sooner or later, the fantasies must disappear, like a carefully-built sandcastle when the tide comes in.

Your thoughts?


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Lucy, the main character, eight years old, dreams of her birth parents. See how her parents handle her fantasies!

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