I am an author, adoptee, and adoptee advocate who is downright passionate about sharing this good news with the entire adoption triad!


For adoptees, freedom from their painful, anger-ridden past.

For adoptive parents, freedom from their condemning selves.


It Is possible to see life with different eyes

Adoption Triad: Can We Just Get Along?`

What’s going on in the world of adoption is disconcerting.

As you might know, this is not my first rodeo when it comes to experiencing change in the triad’s world.

Now, in my seventh chapter of life, I’m letting go, sorting priorities, and adjusting to a slower pace. I’m watching the next generation rise and bring new truth to adoption by passing the baton whenever possible and inviting them to stand on my shoulders.

However, as I stand down, I see the dynamics of new movements, claims to fame, books, competitiveness,  blogs, comparing, conferences, cliques, cattiness,  feminism, and current politics. Add social media and a militaristic tone, and it’s the set-up for a perfect storm…a storm of division amongst us.

We can’t let that happen.

A great percentage of the list above is toxic and I fear that if division continues amongst us, the possibility for individual and corporate healing will be crippled.

Inside I’m screaming, “Can’t we all just get along?” Can’t we all discover and re-discover together? None of us has the corner on truth…we are journey mates.

When I get off track in my relationships, I refresh my memory with five points that are lies Satan wants us to believe:

  • Look at me
  • Listen to me
  • Let me win
  • Give me mine
  • I need praise

We might as well lay our shoes beside one another and walk life’s beach together.

In time, we may be surprised to discover that those we thought of as adversaries  are really God’s greatest gifts…to cause growth.

Connie Dawson, Ph.D, LPC says, “We must look into one another’s eyes to be healed.”

Think of the people in your life.

Can you look into their eyes? Can I?

We can never know the pain or joy of others in the triad but by walking together instead of apart, by looking in one another’s eyes, and growing in our capacity to love and be loved.









3 responses to “Adoption Triad: Can We Just Get Along?`”

  1. Sherrie Eldridge, Adoption Author Avatar

    Thank you, Melissa….for your kind words. xoxox

  2. Sherrie Eldridge, Adoption Author Avatar

    Thank you, Melissa. Your voice is essential also. Your desire to carry the baton shows your true heart. I wish you all the best. Sherrie

  3. Melissa Harding Avatar
    Melissa Harding

    Yes! This message is so vital! I hope I can do my part in carrying the baton. Your voice is essential in the adoption community!

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