Adoption Triad: Can We Just Get Along?`

What’s going on in the world of adoption is disconcerting.

As you might know, this is not my first rodeo when it comes to experiencing change in the triad’s world.

Now, in my seventh chapter of life, I’m letting go, sorting priorities, and adjusting to a slower pace. I’m watching the next generation rise and bring new truth to adoption by passing the baton whenever possible and inviting them to stand on my shoulders.

However, as I stand down, I see the dynamics of new movements, claims to fame, books, competitiveness,  blogs, comparing, conferences, cliques, cattiness,  feminism, and current politics. Add social media and a militaristic tone, and it’s the set-up for a perfect storm…a storm of division amongst us.

We can’t let that happen.

A great percentage of the list above is toxic and I fear that if division continues amongst us, the possibility for individual and corporate healing will be crippled.

Inside I’m screaming, “Can’t we all just get along?” Can’t we all discover and re-discover together? None of us has the corner on truth…we are journey mates.

When I get off track in my relationships, I refresh my memory with five points that are lies Satan wants us to believe:

  • Look at me
  • Listen to me
  • Let me win
  • Give me mine
  • I need praise

We might as well lay our shoes beside one another and walk life’s beach together.

In time, we may be surprised to discover that those we thought of as adversaries  are really God’s greatest gifts…to cause growth.

Connie Dawson, Ph.D, LPC says, “We must look into one another’s eyes to be healed.”

Think of the people in your life.

Can you look into their eyes? Can I?

We can never know the pain or joy of others in the triad but by walking together instead of apart, by looking in one another’s eyes, and growing in our capacity to love and be loved.