Category: Adopted and Foster Kids,
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The Hot Potato of Adoptee Anger
“Adopted and foster kids have every right to be angry. We are wounded beyond belief. We’ve judged by media and places of worship, misunderstood, labeled as losers, shamed, pitied, abused, misrepresented, ignored, shunned, marginalized, orphaned and sent away with our few belongings in a black trash bag.” Sherrie Eldridge What Is Anger? Anger is a…
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Cheat Sheet for Talking Adoption
What comes to mind when you think about initiating a conversation with your child about his birth family? Do you feel defensive, like the birth family is the enemy to be avoided at all costs? Do you feel sad, and does your lip begin to quiver at the thought of their possible presence in your…
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What Made Me A Kick-Ass Adoptee
Hell yes, adoptees are angry! Excuse my French…I’m just a veteran adoptee, finally free from anger’s choking grip, and ready to hunt bear on behalf of my fellow adoptees and foster kids who believe that their anger might be a life sentence. Up until now, most adoptees have believed there’s no hope for resolving overwhelming…
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I AM TERRIFIED OF REJECTION Online Adoptee Bible Study
Fear of rejection is like a monkey on the backs of many adopted kids, teens, and adults. Most tend to see rejection when none was intended. The turning around instead of being face to face. An unanswered text. Being stood up for a date with a first parent. Is this a permanent disability? Will adopted…
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Who’s That Little Girl, Anyway?
Imagine being given an assignment to find someone you’ve never met, but someone with whom you have an unknown connection. The person you’re searching for is a female toddler who lives in a bungalow on a prestigious, tree-lined street. She’ll be sitting on the porch steps alone. “Who’s that little girl, anyway?” you may ask…
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“I DON’T FEEL LIKE I BELONG ANYWHERE”-Online Adoptee Bible Study
What name did he have in his birth family’s home? Surely it must have been a Hebrew name. But now he was to be called by another name–an Egyptian name. Little Moses felt all mixed up inside. If he were able to put his feelings into words he might have said, I don’t feel like…
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How Adopted Kids Want Their Parents To Handle Their Pre-Adoption Loss
It’s painful to enter into your child’s suffering. It’s so much easier to assume that all is well inside your child, especially if she hasn’t manifested any obvious problems. But all adopted children have been wounded, simply because they experienced a profound loss before they were embraced by their new family. The first thing your…
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How To Advocate for Your Adopted Child Amidst Insensitive Remarks
The following chart may come in handy over the holidays, as you will be attending family and public gatherings, where well-intentioned individuals might know your child is adopted, but are nervous about what to say to connect with your family or child. We all get nervous in different situations, but when nervousness concerns the topic…
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A Gift Only Adopted and Foster Kids Can Give
We Have a Unique Emotional Language. Sherry says that adoptees can “read” each other from just a few words or their body language, which she says makes adoptees feel like they belong to each other.
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The Special Needs of Adopted Children
I need parents who are willing to put aside preconceived notions about adoption and be educated about the realities of adoption and the special needs adoptive families face. (Proverbs 23:12, Proverbs 3: 13-14, Proverbs 3:5-6) I need my adoptive and birth parents to have a non-competitive attitude. Without this, I will struggle with loyalty issues.…