Category Archives: adopted

The Burning Fear Adoptees and Foster Kids Find Impossible to Quench

This is an image of a woman hiding under the covers. She has deep adoption fears and this post shows how to deal with them.

This insidious fear lies in the basement of adopted and fostered kids heart, like mould. How can one deal with such a fear? Who could possibly have an answer that will quench the fear? Read on…

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What Adoptive and Foster Parents Can Do If Short-Changed by Social Workers

When Shortchanged by An Adoption Professional, Parents Can Still Work through Grief with Their Children

It’s hard to believe in this day and age that social workers often hold back vital truth from adoptive and foster parents. Withheld truth that will surely sabotage both parenting and growing up adopted or fostered. What can a parent do when this happens? Sherrie Eldridge lists six steps to help parents get started.

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Adoptees and Foster Kids Will Likely Identify with Elf at Christmas

Elf Finally Tries to Find Closure for the Adoption Mystery in His Life

It’s probably the 5th time I’ve seen the movie called “Elf,” but this time, I felt incredibly uncomfortable. Buddy (Will Ferrell) was dropped off at the North Pole as a toddler and raised to adulthood among Santa’s elves. Bob Newhart plays the kindly Elf father who parents him. Elf was increasingly frustrated at the North Pole. He just didn’t fit

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How Adoptees and Foster Kids Can Prepare for Birth Parent Reunions

Adoptee Reunions with Birth Family Must Be Done with Caution and Preparation

An adoptee’s or foster kids’ reunion with birth family members can seem like a milion emotions all at once. It is easy for the reunited adoptee or foster child to feel overwhelmed, like a loser and a victim. Some say you can’t prepare for an adoption reunion, but adoptee veteran Sherrie Eldridge begs to differ. She lists five things adoptees and foster kids must remember in order to be prepared.

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Adopted and Foster Kids: Buckle Your Seatbelts Before Birth Parent Reunions

Looking back on my initial contact via phone with my birth mother, it’s hard to believe that the whole reunion with her ended in slammed doors. Adoptees must be aware that rejection is a real possibility….and remain safe during times when rejection comes. Also, when the sweet words like this come. We must be wise and not operate on emotion.

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Why Adoptive and Foster Parents Must Resist “Over the Top” Giving

“Just get whatever you want.” Many of us believe this communicates love to adopted and foster children. As Sherrie Eldridge wrote this post, she identified a new area of overindulgence in her own life. Find out what overgiving really communicates to your child and the three forms of overgiving.

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