Category: adoptee anger
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The Hot Potato of Adoptee Anger
“Adopted and foster kids have every right to be angry. We are wounded beyond belief. We’ve judged by media and places of worship, misunderstood, labeled as losers, shamed, pitied, abused, misrepresented, ignored, shunned, marginalized, orphaned and sent away with our few belongings in a black trash bag.” Sherrie Eldridge What Is Anger? Anger is a…
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The Special Needs of Adopted Children
Adopted children have special needs that adoptive, first, and foster parents must learn in order to become their child’s #1 cheerleader. Use this list as needed and as age-appropriate for discussing special needs with your child. You might say, “An adopted person wrote a list of her special needs. Would you be interested in seeing…
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What Made Me A Kick-Ass Adoptee
Hell yes, adoptees are angry! Excuse my French…I’m just a veteran adoptee, finally free from anger’s choking grip, and ready to hunt bear on behalf of my fellow adoptees and foster kids who believe that their anger might be a life sentence. Up until now, most adoptees have believed there’s no hope for resolving overwhelming…
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“I BLOW UP EASILY AND HURT OTHERS” Online Adoptee Bible Study
The child picture in this photo could be an adopted or foster child, who feels at the mercy of her anger. She blows up, hurts others, and then feel much regret about it. In time, she will learn that her anger is God-given and that it can be regulated so that it performs what it…
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How Adoptive Moms Can Reverse Their Child’s Misplaced Anger
I’m going to ask you to do something in regard to your adopted child’s anger that will likely seem crazy, but hang tight…it will make sense after you read the prescription for helping your child process misplaced anger and find healing from pre-adoption loss. First, think about your reaction to your child’s outbursts, rages, and…
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Confessions of An Angry Adoptee
We feel emotions more intensely than many non-adopted humans, for we have pre-adoption traumas that affect us right down to the cellular level.But, isn’t anger supposed to be a good thing? Yes! Our emotions are a gift, meant to help us. But, anger can become toxic if not processed. Take this quiz to see if…
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Do Adoptees and Foster Kids Have A Right to Be Angry?
Hell, yes, we’re angry. Excuse my French…I’m just a veteran adoptee, finally free from adoptee anger’s choking grip, and ready to hunt bear. As you might have surmised from the opening statement, this will not be a feel-good read. No warm fuzzies or heart-shaped emojis. No steaming bedtime tea and cookies. This is a wake-up,…
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The Gift of My Adoptive Mama’s Perfume
If you pick up an empty bottle that once contained expensive perfume, its possible to still distinguish the fine fragrance, even though the bottle is empty. Adoptive mamas, you are the perfume and you want your life and love to be a timeless fragrance of fine perfume for your adopted and foster child. That’s what…
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One Adoptee Discovers Late Mom’s Legacy of Love
I never dreamed I’d be writing a book about her…my late adoptive mom, that is. Our rocky relationship was nothing to brag about. In fact, it was a secret I carried as an adoption author and speaker. But, then something incredible occurred. Flashing into my mind were warm memories of her. How could that be?…
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Has God Forgotten the Fatherless?
Because adopted and foster children suffer great loss of the birth family and place of belonging, they oftentimes feel forgotten–by those in their lives and by God Himself. Sherrie provides Biblical answers of God’s inheritance to the fatherless.
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What Adoptive and Foster Parents Can Do If Short-Changed by Social Workers
It’s hard to believe in this day and age that social workers often hold back vital truth from adoptive and foster parents. Withheld truth that will surely sabotage both parenting and growing up adopted or fostered. What can a parent do when this happens? Sherrie Eldridge lists six steps to help parents get started.
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Why Adoptive and Foster Parents Must Resist Over-the-Top Giving
“Just get whatever you want.” Many of us believe this communicates love to adopted and foster children. As Sherrie Eldridge wrote this post, she identified a new area of overindulgence in her own life. Find out what overgiving really communicates to your child and the three forms of overgiving.