Category Archives: foster parent

Should Adopted and Foster Kids Keep Trying After Repeated Birth Parent Rejections?

Some therapists call it “repetition compulsion.” That means trying and trying with the same results. We adoptees and foster kids sometimes fall into this when we are rejected by a birth relative. We keep trying to make things better, but the birth relative keeps rejecting or abusing us verbally. What can adoptees and fostered kids do? Do we just keep on taking it? Here’s what Sherrie found out on her journey.

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Why Adoptive and Foster Parents Must Resist “Over the Top” Giving

“Just get whatever you want.” Many of us believe this communicates love to adopted and foster children. As Sherrie Eldridge wrote this post, she identified a new area of overindulgence in her own life. Find out what overgiving really communicates to your child and the three forms of overgiving.

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A Craft Project to Help Adopted or Foster Kids Process Adoption Grief

How, oh how, can a foster or adoptive parent help their child through grief? They run as fast as possible from anything sad, right? Here’s an indirect and creative way to approach the subject. I have always loved this poem because I think it shows the painful reality and also healing involved in adoption. It would be a neat project

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