Category Archives: foster parent

An Unexpected Prescription for Grieving Adoption Loss

This post handles the problem of adoption grief and proposes the added dimension of worship for healing.

It’s so easy to go negative about adoption, thinking that ranting about our pain will get us one step closer to healing. Speaking up and out is good, but there is an additional step that needs to be taken to become the people we were created to be.

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What Adoptive and Foster Parents Can Do When Kids “Out-Stubborn” Them

When Your Child Resists Talking about Adoption there are ways to get them to open up and share.

What can adoptive and foster parents do when their kids consistently resist talking about adoption? Many times, the child will yell, “You don’t get it.” And, truth be told, parents don’t get it because adopted and foster kids see life in an entirely different way than their parents. Learn here how to enter their world….and how to miss entrance.

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What Adoptive and Foster Parents Can Do If Short-Changed by Social Workers

When Shortchanged by An Adoption Professional, Parents Can Still Work through Grief with Their Children

It’s hard to believe in this day and age that social workers often hold back vital truth from adoptive and foster parents. Withheld truth that will surely sabotage both parenting and growing up adopted or fostered. What can a parent do when this happens? Sherrie Eldridge lists six steps to help parents get started.

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Adoptees and Foster Kids Will Likely Identify with Elf at Christmas

Elf Finally Tries to Find Closure for the Adoption Mystery in His Life

It’s probably the 5th time I’ve seen the movie called “Elf,” but this time, I felt incredibly uncomfortable. Buddy (Will Ferrell) was dropped off at the North Pole as a toddler and raised to adulthood among Santa’s elves. Bob Newhart plays the kindly Elf father who parents him. Elf was increasingly frustrated at the North Pole. He just didn’t fit

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How Adoptees and Foster Kids Can Prepare for Birth Parent Reunions

Adoptee Reunions with Birth Family Must Be Done with Caution and Preparation

An adoptee’s or foster kids’ reunion with birth family members can seem like a milion emotions all at once. It is easy for the reunited adoptee or foster child to feel overwhelmed, like a loser and a victim. Some say you can’t prepare for an adoption reunion, but adoptee veteran Sherrie Eldridge begs to differ. She lists five things adoptees and foster kids must remember in order to be prepared.

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Should Adopted and Foster Kids Keep Trying After Repeated Birth Parent Rejections?

This post addresses repitition compulsion by adopted and fostered who find connecting with birth family impossible. It gives the advice of saying goodbye.

Some therapists call it “repetition compulsion.” That means trying and trying with the same results. We adoptees and foster kids sometimes fall into this when we are rejected by a birth relative. We keep trying to make things better, but the birth relative keeps rejecting or abusing us verbally. What can adoptees and fostered kids do? Do we just keep on taking it? Here’s what Sherrie found out on her journey.

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