Category: Healing
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Dancing in My First Mother’s Shadow
Almost every adoptee has a shadow following her. It’s the shadow of the First Mother. The shadow may be fleeting, fear-producing, fierce, or formidable. It all depends, for each adoptee and First Mother are unique, one of a kind. But, one thing is certain–adoptees who experience rejection from their First Mothers can dance again.
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I HAVE A UNIQUE LIFE PURPOSE. Online Adoptee Bible Study
The late Brian Keck, between the age of 10 and 16, was placed in 27 foster homes, three adoptive placements, two group homes and one detention center. He went on to earn a degree in social work and is now dedicating himself to become an Olympic wrestler. He said in an article for Connections, a…
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Ending the Unwanted War Between Adoptees and Their Moms
How I wish mom and I knew about what will be shared . We would have been freed from the war between us and enjoyed an intimate parent/child relationship that only comes from tough self-examination of both child and parent.
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How Adoptive Parents Can Foster Self-Acceptance In Their Kids
Your child’s potential is there, yet invisible. I like to think of each person as made in the image of God–body, soul, and spirit. Just like the amaryllis, those gorgeous red blooms are developing deep within, yet when he/she comes to you, likely there will be no evidence because pre-adoption trauma keeps it suppressed. …
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What the MRI of My Adoptee Heart Showed
Sherrie couldn’t figure out why life’s circumstance felt like she was being painted into a corner. As a control freak, this was incredibly distressing. What she didn’t realize is that she was at the threshold of healing. A MRI of her adoptee heart clarified the diagnosis.
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One Adoptee’s New View of Verrier’s Primal Wound
We Adoptees and foster kids have clung for decades to the validation of Nancy Verrier, author of The Primal Wound. But why? She is an adoptive mom and her perspective is oh so different than that of an adoptee. Are adoptees willing to move out of the :self valida