Category: hopeful
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The Power of An Adoptive Mom’s Non-Abandoning Heart
will do everything possible to connect with my child I will still love her even when she rejects me I will love unconditionally, knowing her back story I will love her even though I am afraid I will love her by telling her the truth about her backstory. I will keep loving her even though…
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One Adoptee’s New View of Verrier’s Primal Wound
We Adoptees and foster kids have clung for decades to the validation of Nancy Verrier, author of The Primal Wound. But why? She is an adoptive mom and her perspective is oh so different than that of an adoptee. Are adoptees willing to move out of the :self valida
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The Gift of My Adoptive Mama’s Perfume
If you pick up an empty bottle that once contained expensive perfume, its possible to still distinguish the fine fragrance, even though the bottle is empty. Adoptive mamas, you are the perfume and you want your life and love to be a timeless fragrance of fine perfume for your adopted and foster child. That’s what…
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Is Adoptee Anger My Life Sentence?
Many of us adoptees wonder if anger is our life sentence. It’s been a constant companion since childhood and even though attempts like counseling have been made to quell it, it’s a strong as ever. Once a counselor told me to just scream when I feel angry. The next time I felt angry, I screamed…
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Why I Rejected My Adoptive Mom’s Gift…and Her
The pain involved in the adoptive mother/child relationship is deep and often seems impossible to normalize. The child usually acts out of anger at the mom and the mom is hurt terribly. Sherrie Eldridge encourages adoptive mamas to know the intrinsic value of their love to their children by showing her own mom’s determined love…
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What If Adoptees and Foster Kids Discover They’re Royalty?
This photograph is fodder for the imagination of foster and adopted kids who need to envision the awesome life God has planned for them. Sherrie provides truths and life purpose that often comes from painful beginnings.
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Why Adopted and Foster Kids Believe They Don’t Belong Anywhere
What is a secret that adoptees and foster kids guard? It’s their feelings of not belonging. They feel like a square peg in a round hole. Parents sometimes hurt instead of help…unknowingly. Sherrie Eldridge offers a challenge to both parents and kids.
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How Can Adopted and Foster Kids Grow In Spite of Parental Rejection?
News flash: Adoptees and Foster Can Grow in Self-Esteem in the Midst of Parental Rejection My heart breaks for fellow adoptees and foster kids who are being rejected. It doesn’t have to a monumental, in-your-face rejection, but it is rejection nonetheless. For example: Teen waits for birth parent to pick up for movie date but…
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Parents Can Bypass Shame When Explaining Adoption Relinquishment
This photo of a child with a deer illustrates the world of the adopted and fostered child. Parents struggle big time to enter their child’s world when explaining relinquishment. Sherrie teaches how to communicate love vs. shame.
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The Beautiful Braid of Adoption
I already hear boos coming about this post. Many people believe adoption is a bad thing that should be avoided at all cost. Sherrie provides a metaphor of adoption to inspire the adoption triad to affirm each person touched by adoption and how God sees it all.
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Does the Bible Validate An Adoptee’s Primal Wound?
With all the changing terminology and philosophy about what an adoptee experiences at relinquishment, author Sherrie Eldridge takes us to the core meaning of what it really means. She reviews expert opinions and then gives a Biblical clue you won’t want to miss.
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A Gift Only Adoptees Can Give
It’s a gift adoptive parents can’t give, birth parents can’t give, or adoption professionals can’t give. Only other adoptees can give it to one another. I’ll never forget sitting next to an adoptive mom at an adoption carnival where I was speaking. At the end of the day the time came for the children and…
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Five Social Media Landmines for Searching Adoptees and Foster Kids
I believe all adoptees are searching for lost relatives, even if subconsciously. With the growth of social media it is commonplace to find a lost relative. Facebook was my means of finding my birth brother, Jon. Connections may occur, creating an emotional high, But often there are landmines for which no one is prepared.…
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What Adoptive and Foster Parents Can Do When Words Fail
What is a parent to do when his loving words hit the brick wall of their child’s wounded heart? This post provides information about connecting with one’s higher power.
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How To Explain Adoption to Your Adopted Child
There is an art to telling adopted children their story. It is a certain way that snuffs out toxic shame and helps us adoptees go on after a trauma or multiple traumas. It truly is an art. Without the right artful approach, your child may silently reaffirm the lie that “my life is a mistake.”…