We Adoptees and foster kids have clung for decades to the validation of Nancy Verrier, author of The Primal Wound. But why? She is an adoptive mom and her perspective is oh so different than that of an adoptee. Are adoptees willing to move out of the :self validaRead more
What I didn’t know is that for the adoptee, there are two kinds of anger—real, God-given anger for when we’re in danger. It’s the proverbial red light on the dashboard, alerting us to the fact that something needs attention.The other kind of anger is mis-placed anger, which runs rampant in adoptee and foster kid hearts. It’s based on lies we’ve come to believe and never question…after all, it’s just part of us, right?No, not right.Read more »
As an adopted person, I wish my mom would have let me know the truth about hurting her with my anger instead of just biting the bullet and swallowing hardRead more »
This photograph is fodder for the imagination of foster and adopted kids who need to envision the awesome life God has planned for them. Sherrie provides truths and life purpose that often comes from painful beginnings.Read more »
I already hear boos coming about this post. Many people believe adoption is a bad thing that should be avoided at all cost. Sherrie provides a metaphor of adoption to inspire the adoption triad to affirm each person touched by adoption and how God sees it all.Read more »
With all the changing terminology and philosophy about what an adoptee experiences at relinquishment, author Sherrie Eldridge takes us to the core meaning of what it really means. She reviews expert opinions and then gives a Biblical clue you won’t want to miss.Read more »
It’s a gift adoptive parents can’t give, birth parents can’t give, or adoption professionals can’t give. Only other adoptees can give it to one another.
I’ll never forget sitting next to an adoptive mom at an adoption carnival where I was speaking. At the end of the day the time came for the children and teens to come on stage and show the parents an adoption art project they had been working on.Read more »
What do you do when you think you’re searching for gold and the search results are the furthest thing from that? Author Sherrie Eldridge answers this question for fellow adoptees in this post.Read more »
Sometimes, parents are ill-equipped to teach their children emotional awareness, thus increasing the child’s Emotional IQ. They may be fearful, believing that emotions like sadness or anger can be harmful. They may be controlling, seeing negative emotions as something they’re responsible to fix, or they may feel it their responsibility to help the child understand that the emotion is no big deal. Ouch! So, how can adoptive parents become emotional coaches for their kids? This is what they blog post is all about.
Controlling: See it as your responsibility to quickly change painful emotions in your child.
Minimizing: Feel your child needs to be made aware that such emotions will pass and they aren’t important.
Punishing: When child refuses to act happy, punish.
Interpreting: They see child as demanding and that they must fix.
Hallmark reminds us of the upcoming Mothers Day with romanticized cards and sentimental gift offerings. Mothers Day is ideally a day for remembering the mothering we received and the incredible character of the mom who poured herself into us minute-by-minute, time after time, day after day, and year after year. It’s a time that’s often celebrated in church and synagogueRead more