One Adoptee’s New View of Verrier’s Primal Wound

One Adoptee’s New View of Verrier’s Primal Wound

We Adoptees and foster kids have clung for decades to the validation of Nancy Verrier, author of The Primal Wound. But why? She is an adoptive mom and her perspective is oh so different than that of an adoptee. Are adoptees willing to move out of the :self valida

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What I Wish My Adoptive Mom Would Have Said

What If Mom Would Have Said This?

Sometimes, parents are ill-equipped to teach their children emotional awareness, thus increasing the child’s Emotional IQ. They may be fearful, believing that emotions like sadness or anger can be harmful. They may be controlling, seeing negative emotions as something they’re responsible to fix, or they may feel it their responsibility to help the child understand that the emotion is no big deal. Ouch! So, how can adoptive parents become emotional coaches for their kids? This is what they blog post is all about.
Controlling: See it as your responsibility to quickly change painful emotions in your child.
Minimizing: Feel your child needs to be made aware that such emotions will pass and they aren’t important.
Punishing: When child refuses to act happy, punish.
Interpreting: They see child as demanding and that they must fix.

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Will Adopted and Foster Kids Get Triggered On Mother’s Day?

The Best Gift Is Being Present

Hallmark reminds us of the upcoming Mothers Day with romanticized cards and sentimental gift offerings. Mothers Day is ideally a day for remembering the mothering we received and the incredible character of the mom who poured herself into us minute-by-minute, time after time, day after day, and year after year. It’s a time that’s often celebrated in church and synagogue

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