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An Unexpected Prescription for Grieving Adoption Loss

This post handles the problem of adoption grief and proposes the added dimension of worship for healing.

It’s so easy to go negative about adoption, thinking that ranting about our pain will get us one step closer to healing. Speaking up and out is good, but there is an additional step that needs to be taken to become the people we were created to be.

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What Adoptive and Foster Parents Can Do If Short-Changed by Social Workers

When Shortchanged by An Adoption Professional, Parents Can Still Work through Grief with Their Children

It’s hard to believe in this day and age that social workers often hold back vital truth from adoptive and foster parents. Withheld truth that will surely sabotage both parenting and growing up adopted or fostered. What can a parent do when this happens? Sherrie Eldridge lists six steps to help parents get started.

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How Adoptees and Foster Kids Can Prepare for Birth Parent Reunions

Adoptee Reunions with Birth Family Must Be Done with Caution and Preparation

An adoptee’s or foster kids’ reunion with birth family members can seem like a milion emotions all at once. It is easy for the reunited adoptee or foster child to feel overwhelmed, like a loser and a victim. Some say you can’t prepare for an adoption reunion, but adoptee veteran Sherrie Eldridge begs to differ. She lists five things adoptees and foster kids must remember in order to be prepared.

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Dear Younger Me…the rejected adopted or foster me

Society doesn’t talk much about adoptees and foster kids being rejected by birth family members. It is more common than you may think. When I was rejected by my birth mother after our reunion, it was the year 1993. Back in those days, adoption literature was sparse and I couldn’t find anything that talked about what to do when you get rejected. For years, I thought it was my fault. God held me through it all, though. I offer this simple allegory written long ago to any therapists who may have rejected clients and also to fellow adoptees and foster kids.

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Emotionally Absent….An Open Letter to Adoptive and Foster Dads

Dear Dads, You have a role in your daughter’s life that no one else can fill. As an adopted person, I believe our sense of self worth is foundational to our relationship with you. You set the pattern for male relationships for life. If you are emotionally absent, we will believe that is normal and seek out those that act

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How To Explain Adoption to Your Adopted Child

There is an art to telling adopted children their story. It is a certain way that snuffs out toxic shame and helps us adoptees go on after a trauma or multiple traumas. It truly is an art. Without the right artful approach, your child may silently reaffirm the lie that “my life is a mistake.” Some parents are scared to

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