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The Burning Fear Adoptees and Foster Kids Find Impossible to Quench

This is an image of a woman hiding under the covers. She has deep adoption fears and this post shows how to deal with them.

This insidious fear lies in the basement of adopted and fostered kids heart, like mould. How can one deal with such a fear? Who could possibly have an answer that will quench the fear? Read on…

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Why Does My Adopted or Foster Child Hate Me?

Adoptive moms receive the brunt of adoptee anger. They are present, but the one whom the anger is really directed at is the birth mom, for disappearing from our lives…for kicking us out. That’s what it feels like.

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Celebrate the Miracle: Reflect Often On How You Became A Family

  Without a doubt, you know that an absolute miracle transpired in your heart when you adopted your child. Trying to describe it would be impossible, for it was like a million emotions exploding simultaneously—like fireworks! If I had to pick just one moment of absolute, unadulterated joy it would be the moment I saw her photo pop up on

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I Need to Know the Truth About My Conception, Birth, and Family History, No Matter How Painful the Details May Be

The late Betty Jean Lifton, author of Lost and Found: The Adoption Experience, describes the adoptee’s growing awareness of his desire to know more about his biological family as an awakening: “The act of adoption puts us under a spell that numbs our consciousness. When we awaken it startles us to realize we might have slept our lives away, floating

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Mother’s Day Tips for Rejected Adoptees

When I returned from my reunion with my birth mother twenty years ago and called to thank her for the visit, she announced to me that she wanted no more contact. Twenty years ago, there wasn’t anything written about this experience and I felt so ashamed and was sure the rejection was because of something I did. So, for fellow

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One Adoptee’s Thoughts About Her Birth Mother on Mother’s Day

Even though my birth mother was unable to receive the love I longed to give her, and even though she has passed away, I still have a deep love for her. I wish I could tell her: • I am bone of your bone and flesh of your flesh. • You were a voice for me when I had no

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