Tag: birth family
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Cheat Sheet for Talking Adoption
What comes to mind when you think about initiating a conversation with your child about his birth family? Do you feel defensive, like the birth family is the enemy to be avoided at all costs? Do you feel sad, and does your lip begin to quiver at the thought of their possible presence in your…
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I’M NERVOUS ABOUT FINDING BIRTH RELATIVES. Online Adoptee Bible Study
Like many adoptees, Moses probably experienced a tremendous amount of anxiety prior to his reunion with his birth brother, Aaron. “What will I say?” “How will I act?” “Will I laugh or cry?” he may have wondered. As with all adoption reunions, there is joy as well as pain, blessing as well as a sense…
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Please Bring Up My Birth Family for Me?
What comes to mind when you think about initiating a conversation with your child about his birth family? Do you feel defensive, like the birth family is the enemy to be avoided at all costs? Do you feel sad, and does your lip begin to quiver at the thought of their possible presence in your…
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How Many Adoptees Are Rejected by Birth Relatives?
Why do birth relatives reject some of us? Does our physical appearance remind our birth mothers of our fathers, whom they have no positive feelings for? Does seeing us trigger issues in them that they have never dealt with? Are they emotionally and mentally unbalanced? Or are they just downright mean? What does it mean…
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How Can Adopted and Foster Kids Grow In Spite of Parental Rejection?
News flash: Adoptees and Foster Can Grow in Self-Esteem in the Midst of Parental Rejection My heart breaks for fellow adoptees and foster kids who are being rejected. It doesn’t have to a monumental, in-your-face rejection, but it is rejection nonetheless. For example: Teen waits for birth parent to pick up for movie date but…
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Where I Found My Missing Adoptee Face
Being adopted is a life of adventure, constantly unfolding. My perspective doesn’t dismiss the pain, but sees it not as an enemy, but as a catalyst for growth and redemption. Most who have lost their first family would agree that we are forever searching for their missing faces. But, could there be an additional dimension…
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How One Adoptee Discovered Her Jewish Name
Is it reasonable for an adopted person to discover not only her biological roots but also her name? Sherrie shares how God enabled her to find clues that led to incredible discoveries.
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The Beautiful Braid of Adoption
I already hear boos coming about this post. Many people believe adoption is a bad thing that should be avoided at all cost. Sherrie provides a metaphor of adoption to inspire the adoption triad to affirm each person touched by adoption and how God sees it all.
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Five Social Media Landmines for Searching Adoptees and Foster Kids
I believe all adoptees are searching for lost relatives, even if subconsciously. With the growth of social media it is commonplace to find a lost relative. Facebook was my means of finding my birth brother, Jon. Connections may occur, creating an emotional high, But often there are landmines for which no one is prepared.…
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Amazing Research News For Birth Mothers and Adoptees
Thanks to science, we now have a deeper glimpse into our Creator’s heart that cherish’s birth mothers and their sacrificial gift in adoption….and for the child that is adopted. We all know from Dr. Thomas Verny in The Secret Life of the Unborn Child that: ~the birth mother’s heartbeat and warmth of her body makes…
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I Need to Know the Truth About My Conception, Birth, and Family History, No Matter How Painful the Details May Be
The late Betty Jean Lifton, author of Lost and Found: The Adoption Experience, describes the adoptee’s growing awareness of his desire to know more about his biological family as an awakening: “The act of adoption puts us under a spell that numbs our consciousness. When we awaken it startles us to realize we might have…
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Adoptee Fantasies Must Wash Away
Dear friends through adoption, Oftentimes, we grow up believing fantasies about our birth family. Some imagine birth parents as a king and queen who live in a castle, concluding that life would indeed be wonderful when reunion occurs. I remember when I met with the intermediary that eventually found Elizabeth, my birth mother. We met…
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Good Little Adoptees Must Let Go of Pleasing
Dear friends through adoption, As I began searching in earnest for my birth mother, I didn’t realize how hard it would be to let go of deep feelings of loyalty to my Mom and Dad. I was loyal to a fault, always wanting to please them and not knowing that beneath it all was attachment…
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I’m Blogging at WordPress! Wanna Join Me?
Hey friends, After technical difficulties to numerous to mention, I’ve opened up my blog here on Word Press. How are you? If you haven’t heard, I’ve got a new knee (right). Complete knee replacement in May and doing great now. Ready to get back into the blogging saddle! Want to dive into some meaty adoption…