Tag: fear
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Discovering God In the Details
And so at birth, love mingled with loss, like water and oil. This combination waged war inside me, from birth onward. Avoid abandonment at all costs and seek love no matter whom the giver. Loss sent me on a lifetime quest to find freedom from deeply-embedded fears of abandonment that warred against my ability to…
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Helping Your Adopted Child With Fears of Abandonment
Fear and abandonment are inextricably woven together and tied into one big knot in the psyche and spirit of the adopted child. Think for a moment about the normal childhood fear of abandonment needing to be conquered by all of us. It is an illusion and not based on truth. However, for the adoptee, there…
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What Adopted and Foster Kids Consider Worse Than Anger
But, this crummy fear consumes, engulfs, surrounds, and ties our tongues. It condemns beautiful personalities, prompts self-protection at any level, and requires all dangers to disappear. It thrives on isolation and multiples with broken promises. It cripples authenticity and encourages sickness.
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The Granddaddy Fear of Many Adoptive and Foster Moms
This post deals with a common fear among many adoptive and foster moms-that their child will someday prefer the birth mom and go and live with her. The answers presented are understanding the dual identity of the child, making verbal boundaries, and the right timing.