Tag: foster child
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Adoptees Can Grow Amidst Birth Family Rejection
Rejection. Just the sound of the word sends chills up my spine! Rejection is the dark side of the search and reunion process. The agonizing side. The side that is rarely, if ever, talked about, the side media never covers. However, rejection need not define us. Here’s why.
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I SOMETIMES FANTASIZE ABOUT MY BIRTH MOTHER. Online Adoptee Bible Study
Adopted children spend an exorbitant amount of psychic time in fantasy. They may seem to be sitting quietly in their rooms, or just looking out the window, when really they are deep in the Ghost Kingdom imagining scenarios that might have been or still might be…These fantasies are not just the passing fancies with which…
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Who’s That Little Girl, Anyway?
Imagine being given an assignment to find someone you’ve never met, but someone with whom you have an unknown connection. The person you’re searching for is a female toddler who lives in a bungalow on a prestigious, tree-lined street. She’ll be sitting on the porch steps alone. “Who’s that little girl, anyway?” you may ask…
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Discovering God In the Details
And so at birth, love mingled with loss, like water and oil. This combination waged war inside me, from birth onward. Avoid abandonment at all costs and seek love no matter whom the giver. Loss sent me on a lifetime quest to find freedom from deeply-embedded fears of abandonment that warred against my ability to…
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How To Advocate for Your Adopted Child Amidst Insensitive Remarks
The following chart may come in handy over the holidays, as you will be attending family and public gatherings, where well-intentioned individuals might know your child is adopted, but are nervous about what to say to connect with your family or child. We all get nervous in different situations, but when nervousness concerns the topic…
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What Creates Hope for Discouraged Adoptive and Foster Parents
There’s a three-fold secret I discovered during the search for my first mother that may bring hope to discouraged adoptive and foster parents. Parents, I know the Marine-like challenge you’ve undertaken to parent a child through adoption. Sometimes, you’re on the verge of complete exhaustion or panicked about what is happening in your child’s life.…
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A Gift Only Adopted and Foster Kids Can Give
We Have a Unique Emotional Language. Sherry says that adoptees can “read” each other from just a few words or their body language, which she says makes adoptees feel like they belong to each other.
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The Special Needs of Adopted Children
I need parents who are willing to put aside preconceived notions about adoption and be educated about the realities of adoption and the special needs adoptive families face. (Proverbs 23:12, Proverbs 3: 13-14, Proverbs 3:5-6) I need my adoptive and birth parents to have a non-competitive attitude. Without this, I will struggle with loyalty issues.…
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Helping Adopted Kids Think Freely About Their Birth Parents
Parents, I know you and the fact that you’re reading this shows your heart. You would do anything to help your child come to terms with his/her first family. Here’s what you can do: Bring up the birth parents in conversation. “I wonder where you got that curly black hair. Do you think it could…
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When You Write to Publish, Don’t Forget This!
Yesterday, LITTLE BRANCH GETS ADOPTED became available for purchase on Amazon.com! I am celebrating with my publisher, Marcinson Press, by eating chocolate cake. I can’t tell you how thrilled I am to be able to make this available to adoptive and foster parents, plus anyone who loves an adoptee. It’s for kids, ages 5-12. The…
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What Adoptees and Foster Kids Need to Know About Anger
What I didn’t know is that for the adoptee, there are two kinds of anger—real, God-given anger for when we’re in danger. It’s the proverbial red light on the dashboard, alerting us to the fact that something needs attention.The other kind of anger is mis-placed anger, which runs rampant in adoptee and foster kid hearts.…
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Navigating First-Day-School Emotions with Adopted and Foster Kids
What if your adopted/foster child or teen enters another day of school with a big smile. Can parents and teachers ever understand the full mindset of that child entering a new situation and school? Sherrie Eldridge helps parents know the back story realities and how they can be pro-active to help their kids not react…
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My View from the Back Seat of Adoption
Oftentimes, adoptees struggle with the complexities of adoption. As a senior in the field of adoption, Sherrie Eldridge describes what it is like to look back on life as an older adoptee and then she gives a message for younger adoptees and foster kids.
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An Effective Writing Project for Shut-Down Adoptees and Foster Kids
Write your story” is what’s trendy now in adoption circles amongst adoptees. YIKES…I can’t do that. I’ve written seven books, some which tell the circumstances of my story, but my voice…it’s missing. Last night I lay in bed, panicked about not being able to find my voice. Where is my voice? How can I find…
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Become Your Adopted/Foster Child’s Cheerleader In Adoptions’ Olympics
Want to see how much adopted and foster kids are like Olympians? We run like Olympians every day in dealing with special needs resulting from relinquishment. Helpful is parental understand of special needs. List provided. Parents can become #1 cheerleaders.
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Taming Tantrums in Adopted and Foster Toddlers
What is a parent to do when his/her adopted or foster child throws a full blown temper tantrum? Author Sherrie Eldridge shares tried tips she’s learned from adoption professionals in her travels.
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When Adoptees & Foster Kids Get Shamed for Depression
It is possible to add insult to injury by labeling an adoptee’s or foster child’s battle with depression as a spiritual problem. Please don’t.
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Most Popular Post of 2017: Why Are Many Adoptees and Foster Kids Clumsy?
Why do adoptees run into walls, drop dishes, and trip? Sherrie Eldridge discovered a possible cause and shares it with adoptees and those who love them.