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Adoptive and Foster Parents Can Offer Comfort on Boo-Hoo Birthdays

This is a piece of birthday cake illustrating the possibility of a positive experience for adopted and foster children on birthdays, However, many don't enjoy. They might even throw the cake. They are experiencing mixed feelings. This post tells how parents can nurture and ease sad and happy birthdays with a creative idea of an ice cream craft.

What are adoptive and foster parents to do when their child acts out on birthdays…or when their child shuts down? Here are five beliefs many adoptees have about birthdays and five things parents can do to help comfort the sadness.

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Helping Adoptees and Foster Kids Identify and Describe Hidden Loss

The problem of hidden losses is exposed in this post with the answer of parental understanding and intervention to help the child grieve.

Yep, we adoptees and foster kids are well guarded when it comes to talking about sadness and loss. Parents will gain hope from this post on what they can do to help their child move through it successfully.

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Relinquishment and Adoption Are Different, by Ron Nydam, Ph.D.

This post tells about the confusion between adoption and relinquishment and the benefits of knowing the differences.

Language itself is often a problem in the field of adoption. Seldom is it simply a matter of semantics. For all too long the literature has failed to carefully distinguish between relinquishment and adoption as two separate, parallel processes which interface with each other in adoptive development. And the consequences of this unfortunate muddling of thinking is that relinquishment, with all its negative power, is quietly unnoticed and adoption, as a process of attachment to another family, is unfairly loaded with societal stigma. Let me explain.

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Preparing Adopted and Foster Kids for Family Holiday Gatherings

Isolation Might Be Choice of Adopted and Foster Kids in Social Situations

There’s nothing much more shocking than walking into a room of family members who snub you. Well, not only snub you, but act like they don’t know you’re there. I still remember when Bob and I attended the funeral of my beloved birth uncle Dave Clark, who stood up for me against a mentally-deranged and abusive birth mother…to his death.

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I Wish I Could Be Somebody Else

Adopted and foster kids often have no sense of self. They may pick out someone they admire and copy them…even down to hairstyles and clothes. That was the way it was for me. I was not only rejected by my birth mother, but even more painfully, rejected by my very own self.

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