Tag: foster parent
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How To Advocate for Your Adopted Child Amidst Insensitive Remarks
The following chart may come in handy over the holidays, as you will be attending family and public gatherings, where well-intentioned individuals might know your child is adopted, but are nervous about what to say to connect with your family or child. We all get nervous in different situations, but when nervousness concerns the topic…
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Should Adoptive Parents Share Painful Pre-Adoption History with Kids?
Your child, at the appropriate age, can actually benefit from hearing painful information about his past because he will know that finally you are telling him the honest, gut-level truth. Kids are geniuses at detecting untruths. This giving of information doesn’t have so much to do with the truth about his past as it does…
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What Adopted and Foster Kids Really Want For Christmas
Adoptive and foster parents want to get their kids everything for on their kid’s Santa list. There’s one gift the kids really want but don’t share. Sherrie spills the beans here.
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Do you Want to Heal from Adoption Wounds? Here’s How.
Being a Lone Ranger doesn’t bring healing for those touched by adoption. When we are grieving deeply, we can’t see and even don’t want to see the pain of others. Pain twists our perspective. Sherrie Eldridge has been there and gives reason why striving for humble healing is essential…in the company of all that have…
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What Adoptive and Foster Parents Can Do When Words Fail
What is a parent to do when his loving words hit the brick wall of their child’s wounded heart? This post provides information about connecting with one’s higher power.
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An Unexpected Prescription for Grieving Adoption Loss
It’s so easy to go negative about adoption, thinking that ranting about our pain will get us one step closer to healing. Speaking up and out is good, but there is an additional step that needs to be taken to become the people we were created to be.
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What Adoptive and Foster Parents Can Do When Kids “Out-Stubborn” Them
What can adoptive and foster parents do when their kids consistently resist talking about adoption? Many times, the child will yell, “You don’t get it.” And, truth be told, parents don’t get it because adopted and foster kids see life in an entirely different way than their parents. Learn here how to enter their world….and…
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What Adoptive and Foster Parents Can Do If Short-Changed by Social Workers
It’s hard to believe in this day and age that social workers often hold back vital truth from adoptive and foster parents. Withheld truth that will surely sabotage both parenting and growing up adopted or fostered. What can a parent do when this happens? Sherrie Eldridge lists six steps to help parents get started.
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How Adoptees and Foster Kids Can Prepare for Birth Parent Reunions
An adoptee’s or foster kids’ reunion with birth family members can seem like a milion emotions all at once. It is easy for the reunited adoptee or foster child to feel overwhelmed, like a loser and a victim. Some say you can’t prepare for an adoption reunion, but adoptee veteran Sherrie Eldridge begs to differ.…
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Should Adopted and Foster Kids Keep Trying After Repeated Birth Parent Rejections?
Some therapists call it “repetition compulsion.” That means trying and trying with the same results. We adoptees and foster kids sometimes fall into this when we are rejected by a birth relative. We keep trying to make things better, but the birth relative keeps rejecting or abusing us verbally. What can adoptees and fostered kids…
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Why Adoptive and Foster Parents Must Resist Over-the-Top Giving
“Just get whatever you want.” Many of us believe this communicates love to adopted and foster children. As Sherrie Eldridge wrote this post, she identified a new area of overindulgence in her own life. Find out what overgiving really communicates to your child and the three forms of overgiving.
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Dear younger me…the upset adopted or fostered me…remember the jellybean
A childlike way to uncouple from chaos and crisis? This has helped the younger me calm myself. Perhaps it will help you, or your adopted or foster child.
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A Craft Project to Help Adopted or Foster Kids Process Adoption Grief
Helping adopted and foster children grieve loss can seem like an insurmountable challenge. However, this post provides a setting, a poem, and just the right words to open the dialogue/
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Most Popular Post of 2017: Why Are Many Adoptees and Foster Kids Clumsy?
Why do adoptees run into walls, drop dishes, and trip? Sherrie Eldridge discovered a possible cause and shares it with adoptees and those who love them.