Tag: search for birth family
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Where I Found My Missing Adoptee Face
Being adopted is a life of adventure, constantly unfolding. My perspective doesn’t dismiss the pain, but sees it not as an enemy, but as a catalyst for growth and redemption. Most who have lost their first family would agree that we are forever searching for their missing faces. But, could there be an additional dimension…
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What Fuels Birth Family Searches for Adoptees and Foster Kids?
Finding clues about birth family history sends me on an adrenaline high. I love being a sleuth and solving adoption mysteries. Just my first name–Baby X–makes me curious! Clues come in the most unexpected times and ways, oftentimes through the least likely people and circumstances. As I have turned over every stone possible to find…
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What Adoptees Deserve from Their Birth Mothers
Dear friends through adoption, Remember the metaphor of the Great Eagle and the eaglet? I’ll be the eaglet today and tell you how it felt when I stepped on to the wing of the Great Eagle. Remember…the pain of the nest was too much for me…I couldn’t stand it….I cried to get out of the…
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What Adoptees Wish Others Would Say About Searching
Dear friends, The reactions of my family members hurt and I didn’t understand why they wouldn’t back me searching for my birth mother. My husband said, “Sherrie, she shut the door 47 years ago and if you try to open it, you may get hurt.” Translating what my Dad might have been thinking…well, I don’t…
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How To Find Adoption Identity Clues
How do you connect the dots(clues)? Look for mysteries, out-of-the-ordinary stuff, shocking circumstances, and repetition. What makes your mind say “really?” When I was a child, the physician who delivered me visited every week to check on me came until I was old enough to ask who he was. Hmmmm. Something strange there. Anything come…