Tag: shame

  • What Shakes Adoptive Mamas To the Core

    What Shakes Adoptive Mamas To the Core

    Just like the band’s drum major twirls a silver stick with two rubber ends, adoptive mamas must do much the same–always marching, moving forward, and directing. The two ends of her baton are adoptee self-worth and suicide, which in my adoptee mind, are untouchables. Mamas are ultra aware of this tension..in fact, hyper-vigilant. They hear…

  • What I Didn’t Know About Being Adopted

    What I Didn’t Know About Being Adopted

    What I’d like to share here is “what I didn’t know about being adopted.” This first post is about my beginnings.nLooking back, I see an adorable child sitting on the porch steps. With leather high tops, a pink dress and matching bonnet, I cuddled a well-worn Raggedy Ann. Dark hair cascaded from beneath my bonnet…

  • “I DON’T FEEL LIKE I BELONG ANYWHERE”-Online Adoptee Bible Study

    “I DON’T FEEL LIKE I BELONG ANYWHERE”-Online Adoptee Bible Study

    What name did he have in his birth family’s home? Surely it must have been a Hebrew name. But now he was to be called by another name–an Egyptian name. Little Moses felt all mixed up inside. If he were able to put his feelings into words he might have said, I don’t feel like…

  • Say WHAT?! An answer when you’re called “Different”

    Say WHAT?! An answer when you’re called “Different”

    So, friends, WHY do you, why do I, sink into a victim’s mindset? Why do we smile and take it? Why instead, don’t we step back and say in a loud voice, “SAY WHAT?”

  • Parents Can Bypass Shame When Explaining Adoption Relinquishment

    Parents Can Bypass Shame When Explaining Adoption Relinquishment

    This photo of a child with a deer illustrates the world of the adopted and fostered child. Parents struggle big time to enter their child’s world when explaining relinquishment. Sherrie teaches how to communicate love vs. shame.

  • Don’t Tell Anybody My Secret….I Was Adopted

    “Was I a bad baby, Mom?” young Stephen asked after his parents told him about his adoption. “Was there something wrong with me?…Is that why they didn’t want me?…Was I a bad baby?” His parents, startled by Stephen’s poignant questions, gathered their composure and reassured their son that the “giving up” didn’t have anything to…