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TWENTY THINGS ADOPTED KIDS WISH THEIR ADOPTIVE PARENTS KNEW

BEST-SELLER, REQUIRED READING FOR MANY US ADOPTION AGENCIES

Twenty Things Adoptive Parents Need to Succeed

LEARN TO SPEAK THE HEART LANGUAGE OF YOUR CHILD

20 things parents

In this all-new companion volume to TWENTY THINGS ADOPTED KIDS WISH THEIR ADOPTIVE PARENTS KNEW, Sherrie Eldridge shifts her focus from the adoptee to parents by offering them PURE ENCOURAGEMENT! Sherrie interviewed 100 parents and their authentic voices can be heard within the pages of this book. At the end of every chapter, Sherrie teaches parents how to hear and respond to the heart language of their adopted/foster children.

A companion book and sequel to Eldridge’s TWENTY THINGS ADOPTED KIDS WISH THEIR ADOPTIVE PARENTS KNEW, this offers prospective, new, troubled or experienced adoptive parents a combination self-help manual, sourcebook and emotional touchstone featuring 20 ways to confidently and competently address the specific challenges of raising adopted children. Adopted as an infant (at age 47 she met her birth mother and learned she was the result of a rape), Eldridge is sensitive to all aspects of the adoptive parents’ journey and adroitly tackles many difficult, loaded issues including the importance of telling children the truth—positive and negative—about their origins as soon as possible, communicating heart-to-heart even when angry, when to seek professional help and understanding their own needs as well as their children’s. Since the advent of open adoption, the demand for secrecy has waned, but the stresses and disillusions of an adoptive family remain, and parents want to know they are doing the best they can. The author’s accessible information coupled with an accepting, understanding tone and personal insights will educate and reassure readers. Each chapter opens with a story about a family problem that is bound to resonate with readers and has imagined letters to parents from the young child, teen and adult adoptee’s point of view. Helpful direction and assignments appear in boxes, sidebars and bulleted lists. (Oct.)
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Endorsements

Sherrie Eldridge once again makes a remarkable contribution to adoption literature, weaving together her personal experiences as both an adoptee and an adoption expert and skillfully examining the often unspoken thoughts of adoptive parents.

Debbie Riley, MS, author of Beneath the Mask: Understanding Adopted Teens, and Executive Director, The Center for Adoption Support and Education

“A must-read and must-keep resource for all adoptive parents, getting straight to the core of adoption issues. This is one of the most validating books for adoptive parents I have ever read, helping them to know not only that their experiences are different but how to turn challenges into healing moments.”

-Heather T. Forbes, LCSW, author of Beyond Consequences, Logic, and Control

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Questions Adoptees are AskinG

“Best-Kept Secret Amongst People of Faith “

This book is the best resource for adoptees who want to know what other adoptees think, feel, and believe. It was published by NavPress in 2007. It’s about beginnings, birth family, searching, and finding peace…beginning with Sherrie’s story and the authentic voices of 100 adoptees, from ages 7-70. People of faith will find it inspiring and Biblical. Those who have other faiths will feel respected. Discover the freedom in your unique life purpose as you realize the value of your life. This book includes some of Sherrie’s inspirational writing as well as questions for support group or personal use.

Endorsements

“One of the greatest joys of my life is raising my adoptive daughter, Madeline. This is a great book that would have made my fathering far more effective. It gets to the heart of the confusion, disconnection, and wonder of being adopted.”
–Steve Arterburn, M.E.

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Twenty Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make

 

If you want to learn how many adoptees view life, this is a book for you. I interviewed over 70 adoptees from ages seven to seventy. This book is also a valuable tool for adoptees who don’t have fellow adoptee friends. Adoptees need to hear one another’s voices in order to grow and heal.

The chapters take you on an adoptee’s journey from the womb to the tomb.This second edition has much new material, encouraging adoptees to:

  • Know they are not alone in their struggles
  • Believe that it is possible to conquer anger
  • Conquer depression and anxiety
  • Understand their unique “rite of passage” into maturity
  • Discover unshakeable self-esteem and worth
  • Find clear direction for the future

This book, when applied, will transform the adoptee mindset from victim to victory, from shame to success, from guilt to gratefulness, from directionless to living life on purpose.

Endorsements for 20 Choices:

20 Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make is indeed life-transforming for those who will take advantage of the wisdom contained therein. The practical help given in chapters six andseven alone are worth the price of the book! So often as adoptees we can struggle with a lack of understanding from those who are not adopted, and how to respond to triggering statements or actions.Sherrie’s wisdom on these issues is spot on. Adoptees will find great solace in her words and real help for the plethora of issues we deal with post-adoption. I am so very grateful for this amazing resource!”

  • Deanna Doss ShrodesBlogger, Adoptee Restoration and Author of Worthy to Be Found

Sherrie has written an honest book of courage, trust, and hope. Her practical ideas, deep insights, and all-embracing sensitivity will be ofgreat assistance to adoptees as they construct their life stories. Her coremessage: Do not look away; discover who you are.”

  • Dan Hughes, Ph.D., author, Building the Bonds of Attachment, Focused Family Therapy Workbook

“As an adoptive mom and singer/songwriter and speaker at adoption conferences, I am once again VERY grateful for the honest and extremely helpful nature of Sherrie’s latest book, 20 Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make. Her previous books have been instrumental in preparing me and assisting us after the fact in our own family’s adoption of two siblings who’d suffered greatly. As our children grow and comprehend more of their past, present, and future, Sherrie’s insights and significant research continue to be an indispensable part of the healing, understanding, and hope-inspiring process for our entire family.”

  • Becky WrightSinger/Songwriter/Speaker, Founder ofTahlequah Orphan & Adoption Ministries, Department of Artists in Christian Testimony International

“This is a powerfully written book. Sherrie’s revealing documentation of her insights for adoptees combined with her own and others’ intimate, personal experiences dramatically highlight her difficult but liberating journey.”

  • Dale E. Theobald, Ph.D., M.D., Senior Medical Directorfor Community Home Health Services and Palliative Care at Community North Health Network, Indianapolis, Indiana

“Although geared toward adoptee concerns and beliefs, Sherrie Eldridge’s latest book provides practical and spiritual information helpful to both adoptive and birth families. Social workers, therapists, and adoption professionals will find this book an important companion piece to Ms. Eldridge’s first book, 20 Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew.”

  • Dirck Brown, Ed.D.Author of Clinical Practice in Adoption and the late Founder of Post Adoption Center for Education and Research (PACER)

Sherrie Eldridge once again is empowering the adoption community to understand the deeper implications of adoption which are often hidden by surface platitudes and off-handed catch phrases!  Her insight and wisdom, and the intimate stories shared by others, allow us to better understand the inner workings of the adoptee’s heart and thus gifts us with wisdom that will help us love our children well! And, as always, her transparency and authenticity is refreshing!

  • Rebecca Swan Vahle, Founder and CEO, Family to Family Adoption Support Network, Inc.

Sherrie Eldridge, the adoption expert who has so ably helped adoptive parents better understand their children’s needs, is back again, helping other adoptees to learn from her own journey through search and reunion with her latest guide, 20 Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make.It’s a well-written guide for adoptees of all ages, empowering them to grow in positive new directions–– regardless of the outcome of their search. If adoption is your mountain, Sherrie Eldridge is your best possible sherpa, for few understand all of its peaks and passes the way Sherrie does, and her sage advice can help you reach your own summit.

  • Elizabeth JurenovichMS, LCPAA, LPC, LMFT, Executive Director, Abrazo Adoption Associates

Sherrie Eldridge speaks what so many of us wish we’d been able to explain to our adoptive parents. This has helped me tremendously as an adoptive mother myself now.

  • Rebecca KiesslingFounder and President of Save The 1, Co-Founder of Hope After Rape Conception, International Speaker and Attorney, Adoptee and Adoptive Mother

Once again Sherrie Eldridge has written a very helpful book for the adoption community. This time her efforts have been directed toward adoptees and twenty ways in which she encourages them to take control of their own healing.

  • Nancy Verrier, M.F.T., author of The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child and Coming Home to Self

It is impossible to articulate how life changing this book has been for me! I strongly urge every person whose life has woven into the tapestry of adoption to read it. For me, this book gave voice to my thoughts, emotions, and actions that were holding me back from fully living the life I was created to live. Eldridge uncovers the common threads adoptees hold on to throughout our lives, including grief, loss, rejection, fear, hope and love. In addition, she gives voice to the common questions about family, love, abandonment and courage that so many of us adoptees try and reconcile.

The greatest gifts in this book are connection, and the humble realization that we are not alone nor have we ever been alone in our life journey. Sherrie pulls back the curtains and shines the light of hope, healing and restoration to our hearts and minds through her transparency and vulnerability. My commitment to serving the adoption community, were in part birthed by this honest peek into the heart of adoption. It has been indeed transformational for me. I have shared this book with my clients and friends multiple times and consistently I hear the same response. “I wish I had known about this resource years ago”. To them I reply, “I totally agree! In what area of your life have you felt a disconnect in you ability to choose?”

  • LeAnne Parsons CPC, ELI-MP, The Walk Your Talk Coach, Legacy Now Lived™

 

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20 Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make (Second Edition)

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Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish

A Daily Devotional for Adoptive and Birth Parents

“A WONDERFUL RESOURCE TO USE AS A FAMILY!”

 

Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish devotional gives adoptive and birth families encouragement as they seek God to work through the emotions unique to their family. Daily 365 inspiring devotions are filled with Scripture and authentic insight into the heart of adopted children. Powerful prayer prompts help you navigate through difficult topics such as rejection, the missing faces in their lives, and much. More importantly, as you pray together through these tough topics, God will knit your hearts together to be a family and you will become the greatest prayer warrior for your adopted child. Based on the author’s best-selling trade book, TWENTY THINGS ADOPTED KIDS WITH THEIR ADOPTIVE PARENTS KNEW, families will find their hearts woven closer together through Christ’s love as they conquer adoptive life issues.

Endorsements:

“With tenderness and transparency, Sherrie Eldridge offers windows into an adoptee’s heart, weaving together hopes and hurts and promise.   For adoptive parents and others who yearn to listen well, these reflections allow us to hear and better understand the adoptee’s whispered prayers.”

Jedd Medefind, President, Christian Alliance for Orphans and author of Becoming Home

“As parents it can be tough to understand some of the unique challenges our adopted children face. Sherrie reminds us that right from the beginning, adoption was God’s idea.  Reading her short devotional encourages us that God is always at work giving us daily doses of inspiration and eternal perspective.”

-Leslie Vernick, licensed counselor, coach, speaker and author of The Emotionally Destructive Marriage and The Emotionally Destructive Relationship

“Who can understand the heart of an adoptee like another adoptee? Sherrie Eldridge has walked out every concept she addresses and talks not just from knowledge, but from experience. Beautifully expressed wisdom born from her own life marks this book as a must read for everyone who loves an adoptee. The short, daily challenges make it doable and accessible.”

–Jennifer Kennedy Dean, Executive Director of The Praying Life Foundation and author of Live a Praying Life(r) and numerous books and Bible studies

“We all need inspiration to keep us moving forward and Sherrie’s devotional is the perfect tool to encourage adoptive parents in their journey.  Sometimes a few short lines can help us regain perspective and get us through the day.  Sherrie knows the special needs of adoptive parents so there are no trite answers or simple solutions.  Rather, gentle words that remind us of the most important things.”

Kay Yerkovich,

Co-author: How We Love, How We Love Our Kids

Speaker, New Life Live

“Adoption is a sacred undertaking – yet not without challenges. Sherrie Eldridge’s devotional will provide companionship and perspective for the journey.

–Elisa Morgan

Speaker, Author, The Beauty of Broken
Publisher, FullFill

“Sherrie is a blessing to the many children that have been adopted. Her books are full of love and hope.”

Derek Clark, Former Child in Foster Care, Motivational Speaker and Author

“Adoptive parents need help, guidance and assurance in how to give their children a healthy foundational understanding of their own unique identity. Sherrie provides parents with an important tool to help them engage this extremely important, yet uncomfortable responsibility.

Dale Dove: Adoptive dad, Attorney, and Fellow with the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys

Adoptive parents are sure to have moments in which they just don’t know what is going on for their child and how to help. Sherrie brings wisdom and peace to these moments with insight into the adoptee experience, her deep and abiding faith, and Bible-sourced comfort. A heartfelt addition to your adoption book collection.

Lori Holden, Author: The Open-Hearted Way to Open Adoption, Blogger: LavederLuz.com

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FOREVER FINGERPRINTS…

An Amazing Discovery for Adopted Children

“Especially good for internationally-adopted children.”

Many adopted children think about their birth moms everyday. This was the case with eight-year-old Lucie, who had many curiosities surface. Her Dad then tells her the story of her “forever fingerprints,” which basically gives Lucie an emotional tie to her birth mom.

There are varied uses for this lovely book. Here are our suggestions:

Use for hospital adoptions and create a keepsake for the adopted child. Birth moms and dads, adoptive parents, and the baby can put their fingerprints and little love notes inside the book. This will be a keepsake that can be used in the years to come, possibly as part of the child’s birthday celebrations. This book has been used by Family to Family organization in hospitals through out the U.S It is also a lovely reading for Adoption Awareness Month events at schools, book stores, and places of worship.

Endorsements

“Forever Fingerprints is my all-time favorite adoption book!  It not only gives adoptive families a concrete way to talk to their kids about adoption, it also helps the child acknowledge and understand their forever connection to their birthparents.  As an Adoption Liaison in the Parker Hospital BirthPlace, every adoption placement is honored with the use of the Forever Fingerprints book.  Fingerprints in the front cover from both Mother and Child – and sometimes from Dad, mark the precious connection between these people that should be embraced and honored.”
Rebecca Vahle, Founder and Adoption Liaison
Family to Family Adoption Support Program

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“God has a plan for each of us but it up to us to listen for his voice. It is our calling to reach out to the orphans. There are lots of children that need a forever family. We are all children of God and every child deserves to know that they are accepted and really belong. Sherrie does a fantastic job of writing from a loving and hopeful place…her heart.”
Derek-the Rapping Dad–Clark
Motivational Speaker and Author.

“After adopting my daughter as an infant, and after decades of helping other people build their families through adoption, I understand this important reality: Adoptive parents need help, guidance and assurance in how to give their children a healthy foundational understanding of their own unique conception, development and birth, and how their family lineage has been directed through the path of adoption. In Forever Fingerprints, Sherrie provides parents with an important tool to help them engage this extremely important, yet uncomfortable responsibility.”
Dale Dove
Adoptive dad, Attorney, and Fellow with the American Academy of Adoption Attorneys

“Sherrie Eldridge writes an amazing book for children. As an adult adoptee I love the amazing ability to have children make the connections of being adopted in their everyday lives. Sherrie is a talented and knowledgeable author.”
–Pam Kroskie
Founder and CEO of HEAR
Adoptee, Author, Legislation Specialist

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Little Branch Gets Adopted

Parents are intimidated when they consider talking about the raw realities of adoption. And, adopted kids often believe that they can’t talk about the painful stuff to their adoptive parents. After all, it may hurt the parents, the child fears. Right into the middle of this tense situation comes Little Branch, a little guy whose birth mom disappeared. Little Branch shares how sad this made him and how he thinks he could never be happy without her. Then, the adoptive mom branch starts parenting him, and he doesn’t like it. He does whatever possible to push her away. But, in time, her nurturing takes effect on her Little Branch and he comes to the point of loving both of his moms–birth and adoptive.

Your child will find validation for the feelings and thoughts that are buried deep within and as a result of reading Little Branch’s adoption story, he/she will have new freedom to share his/her story with you!

Sherrie reading book: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07Q7WWTT9?ref=cm_sw_em_r_lb_dt_y8r9YLJXmcU8j

Endorsements:

Sherrie beautifully captures the foster and adoptive journey in this stunning book. Her words resonate deeply with me as an adoptive mom. My 10 year old son sat beside me as I read it and he felt that the character Little Branch, was telling his story. Sherrie paints a picture of adoption that includes feelings of loss, love, heartbreak and healing. This book will prompt empowering connection and conversation with adoptees and deeper understanding for parents. Every foster and adoptive family should own this book!

  • Carrie Goldman, Author and Speaker, Host of Portrait of an Adoption

Sherrie Eldridge has given our children, and us as parents, an incredible gift through this beautiful book, Little Branch Gets Adopted. It’s heartwarming but also appropriate for children who have been adopted. I highly recommend this book for your family!

  • Mike Berry, Best-Selling author of Confessions Of An Adoptive Parent

Little Branch Gets Adopted beautifully illustrates the dilemma many adopted children face — opening up their hearts to a more than one mom. This book gives words to the love they hold for their first family and their intense grief at separation, while holding space for the nurturing and transformative relationships that have begun to form through adoption. In these beautiful pages, adopted children will see their own story so rarely told. There is room in this book — and in a child’s heart — for the love of more than one mother to grow.

  • Jennie Owens, adoptive mom to four amazing children, Co-Founder of Forever Homes and Rejuvenate Retreats, and author of Dancing with a Porcupine

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“Sherrie Eldridge’s new book LITTLE BRANCH GETS ADOPTED perfectly combines the validation of adoptee grief with the hope and comfort of unconditional parental love. An openhearted and generous story, LITTLE BRANCH will touch you deeply. Definitely one to add to your family’s library!”

has so ably helped adoptive parents better understand their children’s needs, is back again, helping other adoptees to learn from her own journey through search and reunion with her latest guide, 20 Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make.It’s a well-written guide for adoptees of all ages, empowering them to grow in positive new directions–– regardless of the outcome of their search. If adoption is your mountain, Sherrie Eldridge is your best possible sherpa, for few understand all of its peaks and passes the way Sherrie does, and her sage advice can help you reach your own summit.

  • Elizabeth JurenovichMS, LCPAA, LPC, LMFT, Executive Director, Abrazo Adoption Associates

Sherrie Eldridge speaks what so many of us wish we’d been able to explain to our adoptive parents. This has helped me tremendously as an adoptive mother myself now.

  • Rebecca KiesslingFounder and President of Save The 1, Co-Founder of Hope After Rape Conception, International Speaker and Attorney, Adoptee and Adoptive Mother

Once again Sherrie Eldridge has written a very helpful book for the adoption community. This time her efforts have been directed toward adoptees and twenty ways in which she encourages them to take control of their own healing.

  • Nancy Verrier, M.F.T., author of The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child and Coming Home to Self

It is impossible to articulate how life changing this book has been for me! I strongly urge every person whose life has woven into the tapestry of adoption to read it. For me, this book gave voice to my thoughts, emotions, and actions that were holding me back from fully living the life I was created to live. Eldridge uncovers the common threads adoptees hold on to throughout our lives, including grief, loss, rejection, fear, hope and love. In addition, she gives voice to the common questions about family, love, abandonment and courage that so many of us adoptees try and reconcile.

The greatest gifts in this book are connection, and the humble realization that we are not alone nor have we ever been alone in our life journey. Sherrie pulls back the curtains and shines the light of hope, healing and restoration to our hearts and minds through her transparency and vulnerability. My commitment to serving the adoption community, were in part birthed by this honest peek into the heart of adoption. It has been indeed transformational for me. I have shared this book with my clients and friends multiple times and consistently I hear the same response. “I wish I had known about this resource years ago”. To them I reply, “I totally agree! In what area of your life have you felt a disconnect in you ability to choose?”

  • LeAnne Parsons CPC, ELI-MP, The Walk Your Talk Coach, Legacy Now Lived™

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UNDER HIS WINGS WORKBOOK



THIS BIBLICALLY-COMPREHENSIVE WORKBOOK IS THE ONLY RESOURCE OF IT’S KIND. SHERRIE BASES THE CHAPTERS ON THE LIFE OF MOSES, AN ADOPTEE WHO LIVED IN BIBLICAL TIMES. CHILDREN, AGES 9 AND UP, WOULD ENJOY IT. 

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4 thoughts on “Books

  1. Marina villa

    Sherry amo tu trabajo, tu labor pero desearía con el corazón que lo expandieras a otras lenguas como el español y serias la respuesta a mas corazones de otra lengua, por favor consideralo, gracias te amo

  2. Karen Creds

    So happy I found this site! Today my son( thru adoption) turns 18. He does not want a cake or any celebration. He has always struggled between Mother’s Day and Father’s Day . We understand, but perhaps your blog can help us to help him understand.

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