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Lessons from My Prayer Plant

What May Happen When Adoptees Practice Self-Care

Sometimes, we adopted kids of all ages need to stop the busyness and focus on self-care. For many, it’s downright challenging, for we tend to care for others besides ourselves–or should I say at the expense of ourselves. Hmmm…I believe that’s called codependency.

One of the ways I take care of myself, especially when I’ve been glued to my computer for hours, is to take a walk. Yes, as simple as it may sound, it can be downright inspiring and edifying.

Yesterday, I left the house to walk and discovered my prayer plant that I’d set outside because it looked dead. It’s lush green leaves that reached upward to the sky were totally drooped over, with leaves slumping toward the ground.

When a neighbor came by, I pointed out it’s sad state and he suggested taking it out of it’s pot to dry out.

So, I pulled the poor thing out of the pot, setting it on a nearby wagon. It seemed there was no hope, but it seemed worth a try.

That evening, it rained like crazy and the next morning I went out to see the plant, thinking it was totally wiped out by the heavy rains.

But, no!

I couldn’t believe my eyes! The leaves were reaching for the sky again, shouting, “I am alive!”

This made my day, for it reminded me of what my future holds. Someday the leaves of my body will totally droop, which is already happening. I know not the day that God will take me Home, but I do know that when my leaves are totally lifeless, He will breathe new life into me.

As a matter of fact, He does that on a daily basis.

Every morning I tell Him how I can’t handle the day alone. I cry out to Him for help, and He always hears, bringing life to my drooping leaves.

This morning, I read this from Charles Spurgeon’s Morning and Evening Devotional: “Help, Lord,” will suit us living and dying, suffering or laboring, rejoicing or sorrowing. In Him our help is found. let us not be slack to cry to Him. The answer to the prayer is certain, if it is sincerely offered to Him through Jesus. The Lord’s character assures us that He will not leave His people; His relationship as Father and Husband guarantee us His aid; His gift of Jesus is a pledge of every good thing/ and His sure promise stands, “Fear not, I WILL HELP THEE.”

I do believe that when we are totally spent, like my prayer plant, with all color and shape drained from our leaves, that He will miraculously bring us back to life.

So, what may happen if we adoptees practice self-care?

We may end up having close communion with the Creator of the whole earth and seas.

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4 responses to “What May Happen When Adoptees Practice Self-Care”

  1. Sherrie Eldridge, Adoption Author Avatar

    Glad to hear this, Karen. Thanks for taking time to post.

  2. karen iverson Avatar
    karen iverson

    Thank you Sherrie…….needed to hear “Fear not, I will help thee” today.

  3. Sherrie Eldridge, Adoption Author Avatar

    Yes, He is great! Thx for sharing your thoughts about the post.

  4. Sandy Avatar

    God is great! Beautiful and timely post.

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