Tag: adopted, foster, adoption

  • Is Reactive Attachment Disorder A Lifetime Sentence for Adoptees and Foster Kids?

    Is Reactive Attachment Disorder A Lifetime Sentence for Adoptees and Foster Kids?

    This young man represents all the adopted and foster kids, teens, and adults who have been diagnosed with RAD. It is not his fault that he was removed from the care of his first family and placed in the care of other parents who were insecure in their ability to nurture such a child. Sherrie…

  • Say WHAT?! An answer when you’re called “Different”

    Say WHAT?! An answer when you’re called “Different”

    So, friends, WHY do you, why do I, sink into a victim’s mindset? Why do we smile and take it? Why instead, don’t we step back and say in a loud voice, “SAY WHAT?”

  • Adoptee and Foster Kid Cry Prints Speak Volumes

    Adoptee and Foster Kid Cry Prints Speak Volumes

    This baby’s cries are vital for developing connections between parent and child. You will be surprised at what the parental role is in this entire phenomena. Of course. adopted and foster babies have a cry that will reflect trauma…they may be daunting to listen to. Here’s how to begin.

  • How Can Adoptees and Foster Kids Know Who Is A Safe Person?

    How Can Adoptees and Foster Kids Know Who Is A Safe Person?

    When we adoptees and foster kids are hurting badly, we lack a lot of discernment about who to share our innermost thoughts with. This post teaches how to find safe people by looking at three characteristics that must be present to qualify a person as safe. This is also applicable to anyone who is hurting.

  • Twenty Gifts of An Adoptee

    Twenty Gifts of An Adoptee

    There are many adoptees who will nay-say the idea of being grateful for being adopted. Most of them haven’t lived as long as I have! Looking back over seven decades, I can see so many things to be grateful for and I say them in deep respect for fellow-adoptees who are in pain or anger.

  • Adoption Triad: Can We Just Get Along?`

    Adoption Triad: Can We Just Get Along?`

    Sherrie shares her concern for the next generation of those touched by adoption and offers self-inventory questions to promote unity and healing.

  • An Effective Writing Project for Shut-Down Adoptees and Foster Kids

    An Effective Writing Project for Shut-Down Adoptees and Foster Kids

    Write your story” is what’s trendy now in adoption circles amongst adoptees. YIKES…I can’t do that. I’ve written seven books, some which tell the circumstances of my story,  but my voice…it’s missing. Last night I lay in bed, panicked about not being able to find my voice. Where is my voice? How can I find…

  • What If Our Adoptive or Foster Dad Dies?

    What If Our Adoptive or Foster Dad Dies?

    One of the greatest fears of adopted and foster children, no matter their age, is losing the adoptive parent or foster parent. After all, when they are all gone, the adopted or fostered child will experience once again what it feels like to be an orphan. It is a dreaded place. So, how can that…

  • One Adoptee’s Grief Dolly

    One Adoptee’s Grief Dolly

    There are many ways to deal with grief, and it shows up most during the holiday season. Is it possible to be happy if you are grieving? If you shove everything aside that remind you of your loss, will you be able to forget it? Sherrie made a wonderful discovery about grief and loss this…

  • What Do Hairstyles Have to Do with Adoption?

    What Do Hairstyles Have to Do with Adoption?

    As soon as I returned home from my adoption reunion with birth mother Elizabeth, she told me on no uncertain terms that she wanted no more contact. She proceeded to tell me she’d had her hair cut to a one inch length, like mine. Say, what? What was she really saying, and how did adopted…

  • Adopted and Foster Kids Can Survive Winters

    Adopted and Foster Kids Can Survive Winters

    With romanticized societal views about adoption and foster care, it is difficult to put a positive spin on your experience when you are in a winter of your life. There is something very special about living through the winter of one’s life touched by adoption and foster care, though. Let Sherrie share it with you?

  • Why Adopted and Fostered Kids May Cry Old Man Tears

    Why Adopted and Fostered Kids May Cry Old Man Tears

    Why would a seemingly insignificant object trigger pieces of my adoption puzzle that stayed dormant for years? And, how could I solve the grief puzzle it surfaced?